Train Up A Child 7-29-01

Sermon 7-29-01 train up a child
Bill Gates rules for teens

Train them up
Not just to tie their shoes
Train them for life
prepare them for an event ahead of time ie baptism or going to a store
Consistent/Discipline
Your home is the number one influence in the life of your child. The average church has a child 1% of his time, the home has him 83% of his time and the school for the remaining 16%. This does not minimize the need for churches and schools, but it establishes the fact your home is 83% of your child's world and you have only one time around to make it of maximum benefit.

Follow thru with discipline
If you make them stay grounded, they will respect you,
If you count to 3 5 times, you are in trouble

Slide one don’t harm the little ones
Don’t give them everything they want
Mother in walmart….kid screaming for more….they are used to getting it all
This is not a democracy, it is a benign dictatorship
Be the parent, it is ok to say no
Not too many activities….Choose wisely
Make sure they have time for the important things
The world will not lay down for your child,
don’t raise them with the expectation
Do not live vicariously thru your child
Strong discipline, strong love

Do not discipline them out of your dysfunction
Know your own dysfunction, rise above it
Don’t discipline out of your weakness

- Self esteem….they wont always like you
Not your job to make them happy
- Past memories…..cut from the ball team
- Marriage issues….Parents unified in goals of raising children
- Anger issues delivered to children

They want to be the center of attention
The marriage is the primary relationship in the home




Slide 2 the lord disciplines those he loves
Its not easy,
Not convenient

Be there even when it doesn’t come easy

Help others build character in your kids

In trouble at school, in trouble at home
Support the teacher


Slide 4
Fear and admonition of the Lord
- take them to SS and church

- Hang a picture of Christ in each child's bedroom. Children are often quicker to respond to pictures than to words.

- Teach your child how to pray.

- Take short walks. Get outside to God's world as much as possible. You can identify trees, capture bugs and look at scenery. Let creation declare the glory of God.

- Purchase a bible in their reading level

- Display your child's Sunday school lesson. Letting a youngster's efforts die a painful death on the car floor can leave hurt feelings.

- be ready at any time to discuss with them their questions

Conclusion
You can do all you can, but still not end up with the results you want

Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands. Anne Frank









I gave you life, but I cannot live it for you.
I can teach you things but I cannot make you learn.
I can give you directions but I cannot always be there to lead you.
I can take you to church but I cannot make you believe.
I can teach you right from wrong but I can't always decide for you.
I can buy you beautiful clothes but I cannot make you lovely inside.
I can offer you advice but I cannot accept it for you.
I can give you love but I cannot force it upon you.
I can teach you to be a friend but I cannot make you one.
I can teach you to share but I cannot make you unselfish.
I can teach you respect but I can't force you to show honor.
I can grieve about your report card but I cannot doubt your teachers.
I can advise you about friends but I cannot choose them for you.
I can tell you the facts of life but I can't build your reputation.
I can warn you about drugs but I can't prevent you from using them.
I can tell you about lofty goals, but I can't achieve them for you.
I can teach you kindness, but I can't force you to be gracious.
I can warn you about sins but I cannot make your morals
I can love you as a daughter or son but I cannot place you in God's Family.
I can pray for you but I cannot make you walk with God.
I can teach you about Jesus but I cannot make HIM your Saviour.













Requests from children
Feed me
Hug me
Love me, don’t yell at me
Show us and prepare us for what the real world is like
Don’t cave in when we want dumb things
Tell us we are great kids

Litany of wise advice for parents
Love your spouse
Provide Unconditional love
Remember They do not belong to you, they are gods child
Always know who their friends are
Talk to them
Be honest with them about life and about your mistakes
Share your stories with them
Visit about church stuff
Have fun
avoid rescuing your children
do not threaten a punishment that you will not follow thru on
hug them for no reason
teach respect
work to develop feelings of belonging
laugh with them
be a better listener
take time to encourage them
get out of the way, let them learn
let them be ready to leave

Sayings from successful parents
If you cant say anything nice, don’t say anything at all
If you join the track team, stick with it
We are your parents not your pals
Church & ss not an option
We love you, just not the decision that you made
It is not our job to entertain you
You don’t need a friend over ever day
Tattoos are painful and expensive to remove