Relationships - Proverbs6 - Sept. 17, 2000

Sermon 9-17-00 Prov 6
Tough scripture, lets look at the positive concepts here

Part three of relationships: you & the Lord, marriage, Playing well with others

Easy to do a sermon on being nice….but it doesn’t work without the roots
Steven Covey's 7 habits book, focus on root values, behavior will follow
Must have tools to behave well
Softball: Matt Swanson, go yard. Jeff, go yard. Don’t have tools

Values that lead to success in dealing with others
1. wicked vs good heart
measure what goes on in your mind, heart

Heart is used in Scripture as the most comprehensive term for the
authentic person. It is the part of our being where we desire,
deliberate, and decide. It has been described as "the place of
conscious and decisive spiritual activity," "the comprehensive
term for a person as a whole; his feelings, desires, passions,
thought, understanding and will," and "the center of a person.
The place to which God turns."Fan The Flame, J. Stowell, Moody,

2. negative or positive attitude
Always something we do not like/ok to not like whatever
Choose whether to disparage, bring others down

A survey asked mothers to keep track of how many times they made negative, compared with positive, comments to their children. They admitted that they criticized ten times for every time they said something favorable. A three-year survey in one city's schools found that the teachers were 75% negative. The study indicated that it takes four positive statements from a teacher to offset the effects of one negative statement to a child.

As much as 77% of everything we think is negative and counterproductive and works against us. People who grow up in an average household hear "No" or are told what they can't do more than 148,000 times by the time they reach age 18. Result: Unintentional negative programming.

3. tell the truth
blant lies
sowing mistrust by not following through
softball…."Ive got it"
keep your word, follow thru

Famous American Fibs
- The check is in the mail.
- I'll start my diet tomorrow.
- We service what we sell.
- Give me your number and the doctor will call you right back.
- Money cheerfully refunded.
- One size fits all.
- This offer limited to the first 100 people who call in.
- Your luggage isn't lost, it's only misplaced.
- Leave your resume and we'll keep it on file.
- This hurts me more than it hurts you.
- I just need five minutes of your time.
- Your table will be ready in a few minutes.
- Let's have lunch sometime.
- Open wide, it won't hurt a bit.

4. don’t be proud
George Gordon Liddy, Watergate conspirator recently released from prison: "I have found within myself all I need and all I ever shall need. I am a man of great faith, but my faith is in George Gordon Liddy. I have never failed me."

The essence of the Christian faith is to be Chrsit centered. Self centeredness sneaks up on us at every turn..

There is only 1 seat in the throne room of your life.
Either you sit on it, or Jesus Christ sits on it

Dallas moore. 22 years later, he is a man of integrity. Good choices lead to

I invite you today to choose to submit the core of who you are to the Lord
Then you will be able to love the Lord with all your heart, love neighbor as self



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